No one objected at the scene at any rate. Say what you like about this event, but that’s what happened and I have never felt that I behaved in any manner more selfish than everyone else. Again I refused to pass it to him, I did not feel that I did not deserve them and Nevex’s way of speaking to me did not exactly encourage me to pass them to him in a friendly manner. Instead, it went to me and Graeson, during which time Nevex sent me a tell ordering me to pass them to him. Me getting to lot was in fact a mistake as far as Bedrock has told me afterwards, but due to the fact that Bed was absent at the time of the drop, Nevex was not allowed to lot. The next drop item conflict was a month later over the Hecatomb Feet that I got to lot on. Important to note at this point is that Nevex at no time thought going our separate ways was a solution: At every conflict, past and present, it is my poor behavior and attitude that needs to be changed, and the friendship preserved at any cost. The irony of it all never occurred to him. I refused however, and was followed by a few days of ranting over how I put items over friendship. Conflict came to occur over drop items, first it was over homam feet on Oct 21 which Tali told me to lot, but which Nevex demanded I’d pass to him so he could get 5/5 homam, and instead suggested I’d take the homam head. The immediate annoyance from his side blew over after a few days, but as I started to realize I needed to slowly distance myself from Nevex and keep it strictly in-game, he grew more adamant on “fixing” these friendship-issues, and thus grew ever more dominant and controlling. At any rate, Nevex took this as a grave insult, not only did I have trust-issues I needed to work with, getting in the way of our all-important friendship, he also accused me of having selfish reasons for this, suggesting I wanted the Nidhogg drops for myself. I have in fact to this day not shared my info with anyone. Given my feelings about Nevex as a person however, I refused. I was fine with that, however Nevex demanded that I “by principle” should share my account info with him. He insisted that through work we could become the best of friends.Īnother issue occurred when Nevex wanted me to take his account info in case we got a Nidhogg claim which he could not attend to, but were in line for a drop. However Nevex insisted that this was not a chemisty problem, but rather a problem on my side that I did not trust him enough, and that I should work on my own behavior. So I told him that I did not like him well enough, that I thought he was dominant and that I just didn’t think we were cut out to be best friends. In that case I answered in a non-committal manner, but he refused to realize my “subtle” no, and instead demanded I say straight out what I meant. An early conflict on the personal side was that he said he wanted to come visit Sweden, at which point I had decided I didn’t really want to make this any closer. He got annoyed if I went on seek for merit pt without asking him to join, basically everyday was “what should we do together today?”. He grew increasingly needy, demanded I say hi on msn first thing in the morning and good night last thing in the evening. While I did not mind listening to him and advice him best I could, I was starting to feel uncomfortable with the direction this was going. We came to talk about more personal things, and I got the impression that Nevex told me some things in confidence which he has not told anyone else. In real life, I have very few close social relations, I generally like to keep people at arms length and not be too controlled by them, but Nevex wanted us to be ever closer. Me being older than him modified it somewhat, but I remarked to him on several occasions that I thought he treated his younger friend Seymouren rudely. It was pretty early (october?) that certain things about Nevex came to bother me, namely him being quite dominant in the relationship. So I did and I eventually joined in august 2006, with Nevex’s support but by my own merits I’d think.Īt any rate, me and Nevex kept doing more and more things, which benefited the both of us in terms of getting exp and ENMs done, but it also led me to have little to no time for my older friends. Graciously enough he suggested I come to SF as guest for dynamis, this being sort of the “backdoor” in which Nevex himself had taken. Nevex was also a member of SF, a linkshell I had recently applied to but been rejected from. We got along pretty well and together we managed to get BLU 1-75 in just two months. Nevex and I met in the dunes in late april 2006 while we were lvling BLU, running into each other by chance a couple of times after finally deciding we might as well make a set out of it.
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